What I Learned: Week Off of Social Media

A week ago today, I impulsively decided that I was going to stay off social media for the week and I proceeded to delete all the apps off my phone. It was one of the best decisions I’ve made in a while and here is what I learned.

  • I turn to social media to delay or procrastinate doing important things.
  • I can go a week without it and not feel (completely) lost.
  • Similarly, I am not dependent on it to help me to feel connected to my community.
  • I have more meaningful conversations when I am with others because I don’t have something to turn to if there is a lull in the conversation.
  • I didn’t miss it all that much.
  • There are good things about social media, such as the ability to connect with other people and the ability to express your thoughts and ideas in a public space.
  • I have memorized where my social media apps are in my phone.
  • I look at them more often during the day than I originally thought.
  • I get out of bed a lot quicker when I don’t have social media to mindlessly scroll through.
  • I fall asleep quicker without it, too.
  • I wanted to share with the world all the funny moments and the exciting things that happened this past week.
  • Even if I don’t share these things with the world, they are still as funny and exciting to me.

Taking a week off of social media didn’t make me the most productive, confident, self-assured and content person ever. I think a lot of people assume that taking time off of social media will drastically change your mindset and your habits, but that is not true. I still got distracted, I still compared myself to others, I still turned to my phone for entertainment, but these things were all at a lesser scale. 

I encourage you to challenge yourself by taking a day or a week or a month off of social media to see what you learn about yourself, your habits and how you spend or waste your time!

Love,

Jennifer

Three Dresses, Three Occasions

No matter the occasion, a dress is always a good idea. Whether you are celebrating Valentine’s Day with your gal pals or with your significant other, Tobi has the perfect dress selection for you! In this post, I will show you three outfits that will help you solve your “what-to-wear” crisis for any occasion and help you to feel festive for the holiday!

Brunch with friends: Alright, let’s be real. Brunch is a perfect excuse for looking cute and girly, which is exactly why I love this dress from Tobi. Nothing says feminine quite like a light-pink embroidered off-the-shoulder dress! I would definitely wear this if I’m going out with my friends to grab a bite to eat, whether it is morning, noon or night. This dress can easily be dressed up by adding a leather jacket, some black booties and gold jewelry!

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Dress: Tobi Shoes: Target

Date night:  Got a hot date? Wow your significant other with a textured dress and a statement jacket, for a funkier and trendier twist on an otherwise classic Valentine’s Day outfit. I am obsessed with this wine-colored shift dress from Tobi and I’m already planning the next time that I can wear it out. This versatile dress is just $16 on the website right now, which is such a great price for a high-quality dress!

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Shoes: Buffalo Exchange (similar) Jacket: Forever 21 (similar)

Class and other Wednesday responsibilities: While my Valentine’s Day is going to look like a typical Wednesday, I’m going to dress up a bit, just for the fun of it! But that doesn’t mean that I have to sacrifice comfort. When I saw this high-necked light pink t-shirt swing dress from Tobi, I knew that this would be the perfect dress for a standard day-on-the-go. I paired it with my favorite thrifted jean jacket and my well-loved slide-on sneakers from Steve Madden to complete the casual look.

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Jacket: Thrifted (similar) Sneakers: Steve Madden (similar)

If you haven’t done so already, check out Tobi and their dress selection. They carry so many unique styles of dresses, so almost everyone can find something they love! They have the best deals (50% off your first order, 50% random days, etc) so keep your eyes peeled!

Whatever your plans are for Valentine’s Day, I hope that your day leaves you feeling loved and known by those around you!

This post was in collaboration with Tobi but all thoughts and opinions are my own.

Lots of love,

Jennifer

Tips for the Thrift pt. 2

Last week on the blog, I shared my tricks for thrift shopping in-store. This week, I’m talking about a whole new ballgame–thrifting online! There are so many apps and websites that make it possible to shop second-hand anywhere and anytime!

Poshmark, Depop, Vinted and many other apps are making it possible to purchase like-new pieces at a fraction of the price and this is a fantastic way to sell and buy clothing! However, today, I am going to be talking about my favorite place to online thrift shop: Thredup!

Thredup is my favorite website to browse and I have placed probably a few too many orders over the last couple years. I love it because it is easy to use, the prices are affordable and reasonable, and there are quality items on the website! In today’s post, I will be sharing you how I styled three pieces from the website and how I find the best items for the best deals!

This first outfit is super casual and comfortable, which has been my go-to look lately. I love these sneakers–I wear them all the time, so I bet you’ve seen them before! This shirt was a steal from Thredup. It is originally from Free People and I got it for around $10! I love the peplum and the ringer-neckline detail. I would swap out the sneakers for some booties, add a jacket and a necklace for a night out!

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Top: Free People (ThredUp) Jeans: BDG (Buffalo Exchange) Shoes: Steve Madden (old)

Tip #1: Filter your search by selecting sizes. Although it isn’t good to limit yourself by looking at specific sizes in thrift stores, shopping second-hand online is a different story. It is inefficient and somewhat pointless to look through all the items when only a fraction of them are your size. Thredup makes it easy to apply a filter to your search that will narrow down the results. You can also do this with prices!

Tip #2: Search your favorite brands. I love having the ability to search the whole website to see what items are from specific brands. This is not possible in the thrift store, but online it is so easy and convenient! Thredup carries items from thousands of different and unique brands, so take advantage of the ability to search for your most-loved brands!

This next outfit is probably my favorite. I love the simplicity of it, yet I felt so chic and put-together! This cardigan has been one of my go-to pieces this winter season and I’m loving the fact that chenille is a trend at the moment! (Even when it goes out of style, I will not be over it.) I got this blouse, which is originally from Old Navy, on Thredup and I am obsessed with it. It is a short-sleeve striped button-down top–a total closet staple in my opinion.

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Top: Old Navy (Thredup) Cardigan: Anthropologie Purse: Anthropologie

 

Tip #3: Look at the “Top Picks” section. I love looking at what others think are the “best items,” just for some inspiration (and hopefully a good find!). It is normally on the front page and it is helpful and fun to take a look at.

Tip #4: Be patient. Just like in-store thrifting, you won’t find something you absolutely adore every time you look on the site. Hundreds of items are added everyday, so make sure to check in and search for your favorite brands to see if anything new came in.

Tip #5: Look out for coupon codes for additional percentages off. Thredup doesn’t do this too often, but when they do it is AMAZING and it makes a big difference on the cost of the order! I’ve found they do it most often around holidays! (Pssstt…there is a coupon code at the bottom of this post!!)

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Skirt: Madewell (Thredup) Jacket: Levi’s (thrifted) Top: Anthropologie (old)

This last look is so easy to recreate with things that you already have in your closet. This outfit was inspired by the skirt, which is a Madewell silk skirt that I bought on Thredup and it still had the tags on it. I got it for a fraction of the price, and it was as good as new! I already have a couple outfit ideas for this skirt so I’m pretty excited. Next to the striped button-up, this was my second favorite find on Thredup this time around.

I hope you learned some new ways to be successful while shopping second-hand online! If you are interested in checking out Thredup, here is a coupon code available for 35% off all first time orders up to $50 to the first 200 users! The code is: HERSTYLEDSTORY 

Happy thrifting! 🙂

Jennifer

This post was in collaboration with Thredup but all thoughts are my own.

Tips for the Thrift Pt. 1

If you know me at all, you know I love to thrift. I started thrifting in early high school and my love for it has only grown. I love that thrifting is economical, sustainable and it encourages me to try new things with fashion.

Even though it does mean setting aside a couple hours and looking through racks upon racks of clothing and knick-knacks, the end result is totally worth it and I would recommend it to anyone.

If you are new to thrifting, you might be intimidated and confused on where to start or how to do it. In this blog post, I will be sharing with you a few tips and tricks on how I tackle a thrift store and I will also share how I styled one of my favorite pieces that I have found from shopping second-hand!

Tip #1: Know that there is not one “right” way to thrift. Thrifting is so unique for everyone, because it depends on where you live, what store you shop at and what items you are searching for. If you are worried that you will not be as “successful” as other thrifters, know that there is not a single definition for “success” at a thrift store and that everyones’ experiences are going to be different!

Tip #2: Look up days local thrift stores have sales. Almost all thrift stores have percentage-off days throughout the week, so take note and try to go on one of those days! Some of the deals can be as amazing as 50% everything, so take advantage of the sales!

Tip #3: Go thrifting with someone. Especially if you have never gone before, try to go with someone who also wants to try it out, or has already been. They can help you find pieces and tell you their honest opinion about something you find, plus it makes it so much more fun and you’ll feel more comfortable.

Tip #4: Go up and down every aisle. Yes, look at the men’s section, the shoes, the tank tops in the dead of winter and even the kid’s section! Look at the places and sections others may avoid. Sometimes that is where you can find the best stuff. Even if you aren’t searching through every rack and every article of clothing, feel the different fabrics and take a glance at the patterns to see if anything catches your eye.

Tip #5: Don’t rush. This is closely connected with the last tip, but give yourself time to look through the store completely. Don’t expect to be out of the store in 30 minutes, or in some stores, even an hour. Set aside a couple hours for when you want to go thrifting, even if it means going less often.

Tip #6: Don’t pay too much attention to sizes. Sizes are practically irrelevant in thrift stores. Something can be labelled as “XL” but it could fit as an “XS.” Forget about the number that the tag or sign says and gauge it based on how the garment looks, but be ready to try on.

Tip #7: Be Adventurous. You will find pieces and items in a thrift store that you cannot find anywhere else. With that being said, if you find a piece that is out of your comfort zone but captures your interest, try it on. Pick up the piece that you can’t stop looking at and carry it around the store with you. As I mentioned before, one of the many benefits of thrifting is that you find pieces that you cannot find anywhere else and that no one else will have. So try on the thing that you normally wouldn’t and bring it home if you love it!

This is a piece that I found at the thrift store that is totally out of my comfort zone: a bright fire-truck-red, corduroy jacket. It is a statement piece for sure, but I am in love with it. I loved being able to pair it with a simple graphic tee and high-waisted jeans, while also putting it over a black-and-white polka-dot dress for a more classic color combination.

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I hope you found some inspiration and helpful tips to want to start thrifting and shopping second-hand. Stay tuned for another blog post (coming soon!) on a different, and somewhat easier, way to thrift.

And to all my fellow thrift-lovers, what is your favorite piece that you’ve ever found at the thrift store?

Love,

Jennifer

All pictures taken by Meredith Amadee. She was a wonderful photographer to work with and I’m obsessed with how these photos turned out! 🙂

January 2018 Playlist

I’ve found a lot of new music lately, from suggestions from other people, mindlessly searching through Spotify playlists, and from rediscovering old jams I used to love.

I thought I would share it with you all, to give you all something new to listen to or a new artist to check out! New year, new music!

  • “Ain’t It Fun” — Paramore: This song has always been and will always be one of my favorite songs to listen and jam out to. It talks about the reality of growing up and realizing that adulting is full of bittersweet moments, and at this age, I am learning this to be true more and more each day.
  • “I Will” — Michael Bernard Fitzgerald: Everyone loves a love song. I love the simplicity of this song and I can’t get enough of this artist’s unique voice.
  • “Wake Me” — The Bleachers: just a quality song that I’ve been listening to over five times a day because it is only 2 minutes and 30 seconds long
  • “Buttercup” — Hippo Campus: Recently discovered this band and I like them a lot!  Not gonna lie, I started listening to them because I loved their punny band name. This was the first song that I listened to by the band and now I can’t stop.
  • “Waste a Moment” — Kings of Leon: Recently rediscovered this old favorite of mine (old as in last year) and I love it for all the same reasons. Also, it is just a reminder that I can take time to “waste” time, or, in other words, live in the moment.
  • “Capable” — The Wild Reeds: This is the year I turn 21 and this song references a girl who is 21 and how she is capable of much more than she thinks. That’s the kind of attitude I want to go into my 21st year with.
  • “That’s What I Like” — Bruno Mars: it’s a really catchy song that makes me want to dance (but we all know that wouldn’t be a good idea)
  • “So Will I (100 Billion X)” — Hillsong United: This song says what my heart often fails to, “I will praise you because of who You are, what You have done for me, and because You loved me first.”

Those are my top songs that I have been listening to on repeat for the last couple of days and that I will most likely be choosing to listen to for the rest of this month! What are some songs you have been loving lately? I would love a song suggestion or two!

Love,

Jennifer

Why I’m Not Setting Goals for 2018

This post might be quite different than the other posts that you can find on the internet at this time of year, but that is kind of the point.

For the last couple Decembers, I have set lofty goals for the 365-days that followed. Some of these goals I completed, but most of them I failed to complete, and by the end of the year, I was disappointed in myself that I couldn’t accomplish all that I had wanted to.

The underlying problem is that I was focused on what I failed to do rather than acknowledging all the things I did accomplish.

For the next year, I am determined to change this negative cycle. Instead of setting a long list of goals, I am reflecting on and reevaluating my priorities.

Priorities, to me, surpass goals. Priorities establish what takes precedence in your schedule and determine how you use your energy. Setting priorities inform what goals you will and won’t accomplish. 

So, as we quickly approach the new year, here are the list of my top 5 priorities in order  of importance that I hope to keep at the forefront of my mind in 2018:

1) to serve God in everything I am, everything I say, and everything I do 

2) to grow in my relationships with others, as a daughter, as a sister, as a friend and as a sister in Christ

3) to love and treat myself well–physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally and intellectually 

4) to grow as a content creator and create the content I desire to create 

5) to take joy in the everyday, messy and sweet moments 

I trust that God will grow, challenge and stretch me this year, as well as continue to show me His unfailing love and grace for me. I pray that these priorities will not get overshadowed by worldly distractions, insecurities and frustrations, but I also pray that I will learn to give myself grace more and more each day, knowing that nothing I do or don’t do will reflect how much the Father loves and cares for me.

Happy New Year loves!

Jennifer

A Year in Review: 2017

Twenty-seventeen was a year with some high “highs” and low “lows.” Here is a list of the ones I remember.

  • I started the year off in Hawaii with my family.
  • I started a blog (the one you are reading!)
  • I told my friends about this blog.
  • I drove to California three times with the same two friends.
  • I drank at least one cup of coffee everyday.
  • I went to brunch at least a dozen times. Some of my favorite places were The Henry, Prep and Pastry, and Goodness.
  • I volunteered in a fifth grade classroom for a semester.
  • I struggled with comparing myself to others and to the person who I have always wanted to be.
  • I began to work out and exercise in order to be healthy and strong, not skinny.
  • I read over 20 books for fun.
  • I worked my first black Friday shift at a busy retail store.
  • I procrastinated on too many projects and papers.
  • I got my passport renewed.
  • I realized I am more sensitive and prone to feel emotions than I thought I was.
  • I turned 20 years old.
  • I went to Disneyland with two of my best friends.
  • I found myself seeking contentment and satisfaction in things that were not satisfying, such as relationships, experiences and physical stuff.
  • I had to take my car in for car-related things (still don’t know much about cars) at least 5 times.
  • I took quite a few road trips with friends (Sedona, Disneyland, Los Angeles, Pason, etc.)
  • My friend visited me from Chicago and I got to show her around my state. Around 5 months later, I visited her in Chicago and she showed me around hers.
  • I got a camera and took over 4,000 photos.
  • I got in a car accident. It was my fault, but no one was hurt.
  • I met other bloggers from Tucson.
  • I went to at least three concerts.
  • I filled two journals.
  • I became a Bible study leader.
  • I struggled with anxiety and experienced my first panic attack.
  • I started working at Anthropologie.
  • Several brands including Jord watches, Tobi and Bootay Bag reached out to me and I was able to collaborate with them.
  • I went kayaking twice.
  • I struggled with singleness and I desired to be known, pursued, and loved.
  • I went to Guatemala and got to share the love of Christ with kids while I was there.
  • I stood by my sister as she got married.
  • I went to three weddings.
  • I started being a part of my worship team at my church.

I have felt so much joy and so much confusion this year. I have laughed until I have cried and cried until I laughed. I have had tough conversations with friends, but the ones who have stuck around have proved to be some of the best friends I could ask for. I learned more about who God is and what His truth says and who He says I am. I have been so strong at times and in deep need of help, guidance, and my mom in other times. I have had great moments, and I have had some sucky moments, but then again, that’s just called life.

How was your 2017?

Love,

Jennifer